Some of us find that our true purpose in life is to assist others in their own healing. As a psychotherapist, I view myself as a catalyst for healing. I became a psychotherapist because of my interest in the psychological, my compassion for others in need, my desire to relieve suffering in the world. and my realization that if I can grow and change, so can others. It is pleasurable and humbling, today, to know that I have found my Soul’s work. When I help others, I find my joy, my passion, and my fulfillment. And now I’ve come to understand that the more I work with clients and bring them to physical and emotional awareness, the more I learn about all aspects of myself … a genuine bonus!
I sometimes ask myself:
- How do my clients heal themselves?
- What must they do to effect a necessary life change?
The answer is quite simple: Clients become “aware.” Although their awareness creates the setting for change, their personal actions to implement this change or perhaps their acceptance of what is, is ultimately the challenge. It is the place where my clients must be courageous and experience their anxiety. And for me, it is the place where I must be totally present with my clients, from moment to moment, as they struggle to find options, “feel” their feelings, acknowledge their issues, understand how they operate in their world. My presence helps them to recognize the ways they tend to interrupt themselves from meeting their needs, how they disown parts of themselves and prevent their own fully functioning as a ”whole” human being.
I am fascinated by the way the mind and emotions affect the body and how the body affects the mind and emotions. My intention is to help my clients to travel their unique road to wholeness, where they can be fully “alive.” We create contact, you and I, so when I touch you, we are both touched.
From my heart, I offer this poem to my past, present and future clients.
FOR YOU
I know you wish to be seen and heard, I’m here for you now and for as long as you want me to accompany you on your path.
I see you as beautiful just as you are, and if you wish to grow and change, I will support you in a place where you will feel safe to experiment.
I will honor your willingness to take a risk and encourage your higher self to speak to you and through you. We both rejoice in the learning.
And as I give to you what I allowed my self to receive — support, compassion and empathy — I touch you with all that I am and have always been and trust that in the process, we are both enough in the moment.
Doris Warshay is a Certified Rubenfeld Synergist and Gestalt Psychotherapist practicing in Port Washington, New York. She can be reached at 516-883-8247.
Twitter: JoanMBrooks
says:
Doris, thank you for this lovely, heart-felt post. You reminded me of why I became a Rubenfeld Synergist – to help others heal and become whole. As Rubenfeld Synergists, we use touch and gentle movement to heighthen our clients’ awareness. Rather than just talking about an emotion or story, our clients can experience how that emotion or story lives in and affects their body. This felt experience in the body in the here and now then allows movement and transformation – and lasting change!
Dear Joan,
Thank you so much for your sincerely supportive comments. You brought joy to my heart!
Warmly,
Doris
Such heart felt words, and yes, your words reflect so beautifully the depth of our work towards wholeness.
Thank you,
Rupa RST 8
My favorite line of your article is:
“We create contact, you and I, so when I touch you, we are both touched.”
Your words touched ME and I will keep them close to my heart.
Thank you so much for your absolutely heart-warming comment!
All the best,
Doris
Thanks Doris for your words. Its beautiful to hear how being in the role of a “healer” can create healing and benefit you, as well as the client. I also liked most of all, the last line you wrote, “I touch you with all that I am and have always been and trust that in the process, we are both enough in the moment.” Thank you.
Jeanne, I thank you so much for your tender and heart-felt comments.
Doris
Amanda, You brought sunshine into my life with your light-filled words.
Doris
Rupa, Much gratitude for conveying such wonderful positive feelings to me.
Doris
Billie, Thank you so much for the incredible depth of your understanding. I express my deepest gratitude to you.
Doris
Well said, Doris. You are absolutely right. A Rubenfeld Synergy session provides healing, awareness, and growth for both the Synergist and the client. The use of touch magnifies the mutual connection and the experience for both. Thanks for sharing your trust in the process.
The wonderful contributions in this blog introduce the depth and breadth and height (have I missed anything?) of Rubenfeld Synergy. And the different entry points are like the many clients with whom we work, who all have their own stories, body and language, waiting to emerge. I like this blog!